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Tiger Woods’ Alleged Mistress to get Tested?

Posted in STD Testing, STD's, Safe Sex Tips on December 15th, 2009 by std_test – Be the first to comment

Rachel Uchitel, Tiger Woods’ mistress, has reportedly planned to do some testing for sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Uchitel apparently told her friends that she planned on testing after multiple women, including a few porn actresses, claimed they had also had relations with Woods.

Uchitel’s decision to get tested is a smart one indeed. By having sex with Tiger, who supposedly has had unprotected sex with many different women throughout his marriage, Uchitel potentially exposed herself to several possible infections.

Several of Woods’ extramarital affairs have been exposed following his car crash last week, however no comments have been made as to whether his wife, model Elin Nordegren, will have any STD testing done.

All in all, it is probably a good idea for all of Tiger’s partners to get tested at some point following these allegations. Affairs are obviously something that people would rather keep private, but if you are at higher risk like these women for contracting an STD it is better to be safe than sorry.

*For the complete article, please visit http://stdtestingblog.com/original-articles/

Use the Internet to break the news about an STD

Posted in Safe Sex Tips on July 28th, 2009 by std_test – Be the first to comment

Just think of all the things the Internet allows you to do – things that were once handled in person or on paper.

I’m talking about greeting cards, thank-you notes and party invitations. And let’s not forget the ease with which relationships can be ended – via e-mail or text messages. (One of my single co-workers tells me this is an acceptable way to end a relationship, as long as it has lasted no more than one month.)

Well, we also have a way for people to let their sex partners know – anonymously – that they may have a sexually-transmitted disease. This story at CNN looks at the service, offered by inSpot.org, a San Francisco-based company that’s been around for a few years.

Basically, once someone is diagnosed with an STD, they can use the site to inform recent partners that they are at risk.

The electronic cards deliver the news in a variety of styles. Some are flirty: “You’re too hot to be out of action. I got diagnosed with an STD since we played. You might want to get checked too.”

Some are somber: “Who? What? When? Where? It doesn’t matter. I got an STD; you might have it too. Please get checked out.”

The idea of using such an impersonal method to deliver bad news might seem insensitive or cowardly. But some health officials say it’s better than one of the likely alternatives – doing nothing.

“When you weigh the importance of getting people notified, that’s ultimately what needs to be done,” said Jeffrey D. Klausner, director of STD Prevention and Control Services in San Francisco, California’s Department of Public Health. “By notifying them — even if it’s done anonymously, even distantly, even with an e-card — the benefits of getting someone diagnosed and treated outweigh the concerns of insensitivity.”

So far, the site is operating in nine U.S. cities (the closest is Chicago) and ten states ( Missouri and Illinois are not among them.)

Web Site Claims To List People With STDs

Posted in Safe Sex Tips on July 27th, 2009 by std_test – Be the first to comment

COLUMBUS, OhioSTDCarriers.com claims to be an international list of people with STDs, sexuallytransmitted diseases. It was launched in October 2008 by a recent college grad whose ex-girlfriend gave him herpes.

“I’m actually listed on there myself,“ says site creator and administrator Cyrus Sullivan. He didn’t put himself on the list. He waited for someone else to put his name in the database.

The site says its list includes people infected with one or more diseases, including HIV, from at least five countries. The list is not just porn stars, movie stars and athletes whose stories have been reported in the mainstream media, but average people who have been reported to the site by friends, ex’s and people who claim to have some knowledge of person’s health status.

He says he created the list to warn others.

“If this site had existed in its current state a little over a year ago,“ he says, “I would have been able to look this girl up and I wouldn’t be having to shell out money for Valtrex every month.“

“I think for prevention messages alone this is a really bad idea,“ warns Columbus AIDS Task Force Executive Director Peggy Anderson. She says the site can’t be successful even if all the information in its database is true.

“Primarily it doesn’t work because it can never be an all-inclusive list,“ she says. “If people don’t know their own status, you’re still not going to know. So you’re going to trust a faulty mechanism to tell you who’s safe and who’s not.“

The site’s database is built solely on reports from users and is far from comprehensive. It lists a total of 15 people in Ohio including two in Columbus, five in Cleveland and one in Galion. Anderson says that may give users a false impression of safety. People may not practice safe sex because their partner does not appear on the list.

Anyone who signs up for the site’s free membership can post information and the administrators take no responsibility for the accuracy of the posts. According to the site’s Legal Section, “Information is published by users who agree to the Terms of Use and then insert information into our database. As part of this agreement users assume full responsibility for the information that they publish.“ The data is then immediately visible on several of the site’s pages. One of the Ohio listings is for a Cincinnati-area woman who, according to police records, hit her boyfriend in the face with a bottle then, knowing her HIV status, spit in his face hoping to infect him. Hamilton County Jail records say she is charged with felony domestic violence. The information in her STDCarriers.com listing is based on an article from the Cincinnati Enquirer. Her condition is part of police record and is, therefore, a verifiable public record. Some of the postings even include photos, like a 19-year-old from Amherst, Ohio, who is alleged to have at least two STD’s.
That is not the case for many of the items in the database which are unsubstantiated. Sullivan says he audits the database occasionally but it’s up to the posters to be honest.

“They assume responsibility for what they post,“ he says. “They also agree to compensate victims once found.“

The site’s Terms of Use say misrepresenting your affiliation to a person will incur a $1,000 fine, posting content that violates the TOU costs $7,500 for each item, and “if you are found to have violated this section you agree to compensate the victim a monetary amount not less than $5,000 United Staes [sic] Dollars plus all legal expenses.“ Sullivan says he has never collected the money on a TOU violation or misuse.

CATF’s Anderson is concerned about the ramifications for people who’s names end up on the list, no matter whether the information is true or false.

“I’ve seen people lose their jobs, lose their housing, be kicked out of their families, their churches,“ she says of her years working with the HIV community. “And I just think putting any information out there, even if it is real, you are hurting people.“

“That’s ridiculous,“ says Sullivan, the site’s owner. “That is a flaw in the people that do those types of things to people. You should never throw someone out of their house or disown them just because they have HIV or any medical condition.“ He says he does not feel responsible for the fallout of posting the information.

Every “Carrier Profile” page includes a legal disclaimer that acknowledges the possibility of false postings and says the “site does not assert that any person listed does in fact have a sexually transmitted disease or that statements made about them are true.“

The site claims it is not legally liable for the information published by its users because it is protected by the First Amendment which would, according to the site’s Legal Section, “protect our right to report what someone else said even if what that person said was false because that fact that the statement was made would be true.“

“The fact that he’s merely republishing something somebody else told him does not give him a defense,“ says Kathleen Trafford, an attorney at Porter Wright Morris & Arthur LLP who handles many First Amendment Cases.

She says, depending on the website’s statements, the owner could be sued for defamation, libel or slander. “If there is nothing being done to check the fact that these would be true statements, I think that person is at real risk,“ she says. “While the first amendment gives you a right to make statements publicly, it doesn’t give you an unlimited right to say anything about anybody else.“

Sullivan says he believes he is fully protected but his members and users may find themselves in legal trouble. “I’m in a pretty good legal position, on my end,“ he says. He says he has heard from several attorneys but has never actually been sued. The web site expects that it will be fed bad information by users with a grudge and even acknowledges that it has happened. The Fraud Policy says, “Due to the predictability of human behavior it is inevitable that people will (like they already have) use this potentially life saving resource to hurt others for any number of personal reasons by posting false information on this site.“

Removing a name from the database is solely at Sullivan’s discretion. And he admits the site runs on a guilty-until-proven-innocent method. “I feel the government should have been doing this years ago,“ he says.

To be taken off the list, Sullivan requires written test results from a doctor. “Have your doctor send your clean test results in an official sealed envelope,“ says the site’s Fraud Policy. It lists a Portland, Oregon, Post Office box as an address and says, in October 2009, it will be switching to a “non-USPS box service that forwards mail.“

When Teens Are Having Sex

Posted in STD Testing, Safe Sex Tips on July 13th, 2009 by std_test – Be the first to comment

How parents respond to the news that their teen is having sex can open communication lines, or sever them, at a key time in the child’s life, according to Maureen Lyon, a clinical psychologist at Children’s National Medical Center in Washington.

Lyon and Christina Breda Antoniades recently wrote a guide that aims to steer parents toward appropriate ways to respond to such a revelation: “My Teen Has Had Sex, Now What Do I Do?” (Fair Winds Press).

“We wanted to provide ways kids and parents could talk,” said Lyon. In her work, she sees the results of poor parent-teen communication on the topic: STDs, unwed pregnancies, and broken relationships.

Though many parents prefer to think that their teen is not sexually active, the book cites statistics that suggest otherwise: 17 percent of seventh- and eighth-graders have had sex at least once, as have 33 percent of ninth-graders, 44 percent of 10th-graders, 56 percent of 11th-graders, and 65 percent of 12th-graders.

Lyon said parents should try to adopt as neutral and non-judgmental a tone as possible. Arguing and screaming often serve only to inflame an already difficult situation, she cautioned. “This can be a teachable moment about the value of sex in the context of a relationship,” said Lyon. “It doesn’t have to end up being a power struggle.”

“First, find the right time, a time when you’ll be uninterrupted and calm, and a private place to speak truthfully from your heart,” Lyon suggests. “Second, share with your teen what your values are and what your concerns are. Third, now that he or she has engaged in adult sexual behavior, let them know you have scheduled an appointment to meet with their pediatrician or adolescent medicine or family doctor for a checkup.”

For the complete article, and for more information from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, please refer to http://www.cdcnpin.org/

Safe sex ideas that raise eyebrow

Posted in Safe Sex Tips on July 9th, 2009 by std_test – 1 Comment

Most people know that condoms prevent the spread of HIV and sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Unusual campaigns to promote condom use are being launched in places where condoms are less popular. But in many parts of the world, condoms aren’t very popular. Here are five novel campaigns launched by nonprofit organizations and condom companies to encourage wider use.

1. A ring tone to remember:

In India, people stigmatize condoms and refuse to wear them because they believe only prostitutes must use prophylactics. Leave it to one of the world’s richest men to find a solution — the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation donated money for a national condom ring tone.

2. Perks you right up:

Ethiopians claim they hate condoms because the smell of latex sickens them. To combat the odor, DKT International, a United Sates nonprofit, created coffee condoms. These dark brown condoms allegedly (I’m not testing the products) taste and smell like the favorite coffee of Ethiopia — the macchiato, an espresso with cream and sugar.

3. Condom trees:

In western Australia, the rate of HIV infection is the highest in the nation. When public health nurses were looking for an effective way to distribute condoms, someone suggested trees. Young people in the countryside hang out under trees, so the shady spots are the perfect places for nurses to hang condom-filled canisters.

4. Scare tactics:

Perhaps some safe sex programs skirt the issue — unprotected sex causes HIV, which leads to AIDS and often death. The Tulipan Company launched its “Be Careful” ads in Argentina. Showing skeletons positioned in flagrante delicto, these ads make no bones about how important it is to wear a condom while engaging in coitus.

5. Spray-on protection:

Since his teens, Jan Vinzenz Krause struggled to find a condom that fit correctly. He thought the pursuit of the perfect prophylactic was hopeless — until he went to the carwash. Inspired by the spray-on soap and wax, the German Krause developed a spray-on latex condom, which he claims always fits perfectly and feels natural.

For the full article, please refer to http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/personal/10/31/mf.safe.sex/index.html?iref=newssearch